Or, perhaps you were quickly dismissed or ignored?

Perhaps the Acceptance Prophecy is in action…are you familiar with the Acceptance Prophecy?

Basically it says, ‘When we think other people are going to like us, we behave more warmly towards them and consequently they like us more. When we think other people aren’t going to like us, we behave more coldly and they don’t like us as much.’

So, is this true?

There has been some behavioral research along these lines to prove or disprove the Acceptance Prophecy.  Here is a summary of the research as reported by Psyblog: Click here for the Psyblog article on the Acceptance Prophesy

To summarize the article: “What the results showed was that when the risk of rejection was lower, men acted more warmly towards the woman to whom they were talking. This extra warmth also lead to a panel of observers liking them more in comparison with those who were more fearful of risk and therefore inter-personally colder.”

Did you pick up on one of those points?  “…in comparison with those who were more fearful of risk and therefore inter-personally colder.”

Just a subtle fear, most times, but fear nonetheless, can make or break the first 30 seconds of that meeting and send it down a path of vibration that is lacking in love and acceptance.

What happens most times when we start down the slippery slope of fear?

That’s right, it usually gets worse!

Now, here’s the most enlightening aspect of this article…

There was an exception according to the article, “There was an exception, though, to the results of this study. One sub-group were not affected by the experimental manipulation to increase how much they expected to be accepted. That’s because they already expected to be accepted. These are the social optimists (or at least people who think rather a lot of themselves!). Social optimists, of course, are in the happy position of expecting to be accepted and finding that, generally speaking, they are.”

The speed in which you manifest something in this world depends in large part upon the certainty or knowing that you have of its imminent happening.  You must be certain without any “yeah-buts”…without any tail enders.

**IMPORTANT POINT**
The more tail enders and yeah-buts that you have running through your mind, the less likely the initial thought, desire or even inspiration will materialize!  That’s right, even if you have an inspiration, you can and will sabotage it!

You must clear the barriers to allow life to flow through you.

Alright, good stuff; but you are asking, ‘How can it help me’, right?

Here are some suggestions that you can add to Your Personal Peace list and then clear those issues using your EFT and tapping:

1. Look for specific events where you did not make a great impression with a person or group of people.
2. Do you remember events where someone rejected you outright?
3. How about a time where you just could not connect with someone?
4. What about an instance in your past where someone just would not listen to you?
5. Discover memories of times when you were rejected, not accepted or your suggestions and proposals were rejected.

Special Notes:

• Be sure to connect and feel the emotions you are feeling TODAY when you recall those events and follow your EFT protocol to clear the emotional connection to those events one by one.
• Do not discount any memory, vision, event or thought as inconsequential…they all have an effect!  Remember, even the subtle fears and concerns can alter the course of your behavior and actions.

If you need help with EFT and tapping, a step-by-step and affordable place to start is with Your Personal Peace.

Do not allow your memories and the unpleasant emotions of the subconscious to rob you of wonderful meetings, acquaintances, friendships and even intimate relationships.

Remove your barriers and watch not only your relationships become golden, but your other experiences as well.

Keep tappin’…aloha!

What do carvings in stone on the Big Island of Hawaii have to do with EFT?

Well, it’s all about the “writings on our walls” or the models that we run in our mind that make us take actions that are not always pleasant or do not lead to our true and passionate desires.

So, your Personal Peace?  Well, the writings get in the way of you ever feeling your own Personal Peace.

So, those writings, quite often, seem like they are etched in stone…aren’t they?  The key word is “seem.”

We can use EFT to erase or lessen the intensity of those writings so that we can go about installing new writings, new habits, new thoughts and those will produce new actions in our lives.

Think about that…if you changed your actions and enjoyed them; what do you think would happen in your life? What could you create?  What could you enjoy?

We must either remove and at least lessen the impact of the old writings so that we can put into play some writings of our own design!

Watch this video and then find out more about using EFT to design your life instead of allowing other people to control your life.

Discover your own Personal Peace!

Take care and keep tappin’!

Aloha!

Jeff

EFT and Hawaiian Petroglyphs

…no, I’m not dying, but someone else passed away…Randy Pausch died a couple days ago.

That was one of Randy’s quotes, “I’m dying and I’m having fun.” (He should know)

A couple other quotes of his are: “Are you a Tigger or an Eyore?”…and…“Brick walls are there to see how bad you want it…not to stop you.”

I know, I know…you’re asking, ‘Who is Randy Pausch?’

I sent some of you a message back in April regarding Randy, so here’s an update.

Randy Pausch is the best selling author of “The Last Lecture” and there are a couple videos on the web giving you a view of The Last Lecture.

When the subject of death comes up, most often it’s associated with words and phrases like: spirituality, dying with dignity, sadness or regrets.

These videos are not about any of those aspects…these videos are about childhood dreams…your purpose.

As you master EFT as a tool to change your “writings on the wall”, you just might discover what an incredible…no, that’s not the right word…you might discover what a limitless amount of resources you hold within you…and then what?

Mastery of EFT may just help you discover your dreams and desires along with the strength…the power…to manifest all that is important to you!

If you get one “aha” from this video (watch the longer video for more “aha’s”), then you know it was worth it.

Take care and keep tappin’!

Jeff

Here is the short version of the video about his message…but, I put (my recommendation) the full version down below:

Full version of “The Last Lecture”:

Do you want to change your life…or, do you want to change a part of your life?

What’s your first response?  Is your response something like this?

‘Nah, I’m fine.’   or   ‘What’s the point?’ or ‘I’ve tried EVERYTHING!’

Well, most often, when we begin to become frustrated or disillusioned or ‘sick and tired of being sick and tired’; then we begin to decide to change our life and the standard advice to changing your life is to ‘Do something different’…in other words, take some action…and make it good!

What are your results in making changes in the past? Sometimes good, with hard work…most times no results, or your life gets even worse (as if that’s possible!)…am I close to the truth for you?

Here’s what makes that strategy of “just taking action” so difficult. You want a different type of life, so you are taking a different action (ok, so far, so good).  Ah, but you end up taking the type of action that is NOT in line with the results you desire…in fact, you probably “think” you are taking the appropriate action, but I would guess that you are not TRULY taking the appropriate action.

Here’s what I mean by that.  Let’s look at an example that I use in the workshops I conduct:

Let’s say you are an “everyday employee” and want to be a business owner…a “successful entrepreneur.”  If that’s what you want, no problem, take the appropriate action, right?  But, if you are not BEING a “successful entrepreneur,” then the actions you will be taking are NOT those of a “successful entrepreneur,” but the actions of an “every day employee.”

Do you see the difficulty? How difficult is it for someone with the thoughts, energy and perceptions of an “everyday employee” to discover the actions necessary to become a “successful entrepreneur?”  It’s very difficult! The perceptions of an “everyday employee” and a “successful entrepreneur” are almost like night and day…not even close!

So, the struggle continues and a very small percentage persist until they “figure it out,” but the majority of people quit; they feel they are just too weak to be the “successful entrepreneur” and go back to a life they never dreamed of…they settle…they fall back…AND, then they develop more reasons to believe and KNOW that “they were not meant to live that life” … or … “entrepreneurs are lucky”…or…”that’s ok, entrepreneurs are not spiritual anyway and my spirituality is more important”…or…well…you fill in the blank with a perception that makes sense for the failure.

Do you get an idea where writings on the wall come from?

So, do you see how changing your perceptions is so important?

“When you change the way you look at things,

the things you look at change.”

That’s right…first you must BECOME the “successful entrepreneur” in your mind…you must begin to develop the perceptions of the “successful entrepreneur”, the emotions of the “successful entrepreneur”…when that begins to develop, you will begin to discover the actions that will allow you to create the life of a  ”successful entrepreneur.”  It does not have to happen all at once.  It can happen gradually.  Of course, you have the power and choice to do it as fast as you desire.

So, you might be asking…”Ok, ok, Jeff, how do I change my perceptions?

Let me give you a quick example…I did not ask for permission to use this example, so there is no name and it is very brief.  Here is a gentleman that was having difficulty playing his favorite sport, he had developed confidence issues and he was not enjoying it, so what did he do? He continued playing but he settled for a less than enjoyable experience. My opinion is that he would have eventually quit the sport altogether and give up something that used to give him a joyful experience.

Perhaps you’re right; it’s only a sport. So what! Well, if someone loves something and that experience is joyful or fulfilling, even on a small scale, isn’t that just as important? Don’t the little things in life add up to a fulfilling life?

So, what did you suppose we did for him?

That’s right…change his perception.

In a matter of 15 minutes, he was able to change his perception to this:

“I played on both Wednesday and Thursday and I definitely noticed an improvement…I noticed that I was playing more confidently…”

…and here’s what happened

“I played my best overall game of the season…I scored 8 – 10 points, and I got a large number of rebounds and assists…free throw percentage was my highest of the season…Our captain said that my play was a big reason why we were ahead in the first half.  So my view is that the tapping has taken my game up a level”

You must erase the writings on the walls of your mind that give you the perceptions that tell you to take actions that are contrary to your intentions.  You must also replace them with writings of your choice.  In other words, apply the writings on the walls of your mind that you desire, that you choose!

What did we do here? Well, first we took his anxiety down in regards to the issue of playing.  The mere tapping to take down his anxiety had already increased his confidence, so we had an indication that the “slate was clean” and he would be open for a reframe…so we took it one step further and used a Choices Tapping Routine (thank you Dr. Carrington) and he used this routine for a few days prior to his next game.  Well, as they say, the rest is history and now he has new writings on the wall that were reinforced with his physical emotional experience!

You may already be familiar with EFT as an excellent tool to erase the writings on the wall, but did you know that EFT is a very effective tool (and a quick one at that) in changing perceptions?

EFT is the tool that can help you to not only erase the writings that no longer serve you, but to also allow you to quickly and easily create new writings in your mind so that you can become the person you desire that takes the necessary actions to create the life of your dreams.

Take the time…be persistent…become excellent at using EFT to change your perceptions and watch in amazement as your life transforms right before your eyes.

Take care and keep tappin’!

Jeff

ps Here is an excellent example of changing perceptions on this free recording: http://www.livefreewitheft.com/EFTcall1301.htm

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